If you recently broke up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you are already well aware how devastating it can be to all regions of your life. You have heartache, food doesn’ t taste as good, and your social life just isn’ t the same, if it exists at all. You also know, deep down, that crying or feeling sorry for yourself isn’ to going to get you anywhere. What you want to do is get your ex-boyfriend back, and restore the loving relationship that you thought you needed. You can do it, but you need a proven plan to follow, and signs and tips along the way. Here are a few things to enable you to get started.
First, and this seems weird, but the first thing you must do is agree with breaking up. I know, this is confusing. But if you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you need to not be needy or clingy. You need to act in an unexpected manner, and put thoughts and doubts in your ex’ s mind. You need them wondering why you are so informal and unaffected. Most people want the actual can’ t have, and you wish to position yourself as something your ex-boyfriend can no longer have.
Second, apologize for whatever you had been doing wrong. It’ s vital that you acknowledge that your split was brought on by something real, be it a specific incident, or just an ongoing behavior that required changing. Apologize, once and exactly once, for whatever it was. Maybe you go out with your friends too much, or maybe you nag him for not being neat. Whatever it is, if you are willing to change with regard to the relationship, do so. Apologize for the actions, once and only once, and show you are serious. Don’ t be required, not beg, and don’ to think this is going to change everything. But do be assertive, and say that you can and have changed no matter what it was.
Finally, give your ex-boyfriend a little time alone.
You want him or clear his head, and focus on whatever it is he really wants from your relationship. This is also hard, specifically if you see him with someone else in the meantime. But now is a good time for you to focus on your self, as well, and learn to be happy with or without him. Go out with friends, or pick up a new hobby. Once you can be happy without him, he’ lmost all see that happiness and want to be a part of this again.
There are lots a lot more steps to take, but these are the initial ones towards getting your ex-boyfriend back again.